Tips To Help Cope With a Bad Day
So we all have various ways of coping with bad days, and I thought I’d show mine. I’d be interested to know what you do to help on these days! Feel free to leave a comment down below or message me on either of my social media.
Watching a TV series or film - this is my favourite way of dealing with a bad day. I think it may be majority of people’s! Watching a series or a film is fantastic because it distracts your brain from what is going on inside your head. Funny series are usually the best, after all, they are designed to make people laugh.
Drama/action series are also fantastic for taking your mind off things. The amount of times I have been depressed, put a series on and then realised I am completely immersed in it and my mind is solely focused on the TV is countless.
Some of my favourite series to watch:
American Horror Story
Friday Night Dinner
The Big Bang Theory
Going for a walk - if you are able to go for a walk, I’d suggest this as a fantastic way to get out of the house, get some fresh air, and clear your mind. Depending on my mood when I’m out for a walk, I’ll either put my headphones in so I am in my own world, or just listen to what’s going on around me. Sitting in the house all the time can leave me feeling disconnected, so leaving my headphones out and immersing myself in what’s going on around me helps me feel more connected to the world.
Sport - multiple studies have shown the benefits of sports on those with mental illnesses. Being active and partaking in sport, whether it be going for a run, exercising at home, or in a class, helps your brain create endorphin's and serotonin (a major chemical in the body that effects our moods, sleep, appetite etc). Although it can be difficult to even get out of bed some days, a workout of something as small as five minutes is a "win" against your illness. You've got out of bed, you've worked out, you've beaten your illness for those minutes you've been exercising. It gives your brain a slight boost of power, a bit of control over yourself again.
Regularly working out can help with the increase of serotonin production in the brain, which is why so many studies talk about exercise being a positive influence on forms of mental illness. In turn, this increased serotonin will also lift your mood.
Colouring - another hobby that has studies behind how therapeutic it is, is colouring. In most hospitals, art therapy is available, and colouring is a perfect thing to do if you are at home. Colouring helps relax your mind as your sole focus is on the colouring. There have been many times I have started colouring and then realised over an hour had passed, and I didn't even realise. Adult colouring books are widely available now, thanks to the recent flux of professionals speaking out on their mental health benefits. One professional said that concentrating on a nice image, such as flowers, helps replace negative thoughts in the brain with positive ones. It sounds silly, but try it!
Spending time with good people - when I am at my lowest, I most often want to hide in my room and not communicate with anyone. Even though I know this is not healthy, my room is my safe place, and it's where I feel best. However, I do try and see friends or family when I am low, even if it just sitting in the lounge for an hour. Being in someone else's company helps distract you, and gives you someone else to focus on rather than yourself. I love to go for food when I am super depressed, and it gets me out of the house, I can see those closest to me, and I can get some decent food!
Saying that, I know that many people don't have someone to turn to, as this used to be me. I had no one, and this is when I discovered online forums. Online forums are fantastic because you don't have to leave the house, you can anonymously communicate with others who are going through similar situations and it helps you to feel less alone. Internet forums specifically for mental health are fantastic, are there is no stigma, no judgement, because we are all in the same boat. It's the perfect place to get things off your chest without fear of being judged.
Reading - one of my favourite ever pastimes is reading - I love it! A good book is another fantastic way to immerse yourself in someone else's world. I particularly enjoy crime novels, written by authors such as Linwood Barlcay and P.J.Tracy. There is nothing better than curling up in bed, or on the sofa, and disappearing in to your own world for a bit!
Often, I do struggle to concentrate and focus on reading. However I find that reading when I'm in the bath helps with this. Pop a bath bomb in, grab some water, your book, and just disappear for a bit!
Have a good meal - if you can, eating a good meal can help elevate your mood. When your body is starved, it goes in to survival mode, and your mental functions can begin to become impaired, creating low moods, agitation, severe fatigue, just to name a few. If you cant eat a meal, a piece of fruit or a "comfort food" is enough to get your brain going again. Something with a little sugar or carbs is perfect to fuel your body and slightly lift your moods. Drinking plenty of water is also fantastic as dehydration can also cause fatigue and headaches.
Try to ignore the bad thoughts - yes, this is so much easier said than done, but try to fight off the bad thoughts. For every negative thought, think a good one e.g. "I am worthless" and turn this into "I have a purpose and I belong here". Don't get me wrong, this can be incredibly difficult when your brain is constantly negative and against you, but try and do it if you can.
Write down your thoughts - this is one of the reasons I started this blog: because I was going out of my mind with all of these thoughts, but no where to put them. I've also started to keep a personal diary where I write down anything. Writing thoughts down can be helpful because its basically as though you are "off-loading" your brain, and moving the thoughts into an external place.
I hope some of these tips are useful; let me know how you deal with the bad days!
Until next time x